Female, 40s, cis, aro/ace ..... Linguist, unwilling to grow up, obsesses about movies, tv shows, fanfiction, music, art, politics and, well... linguistics. I am in more fandoms than I care to count
Please help me leave my current apartment, I have constantly had my housing threatened while living here, the rent is much too high for my current budget now and my only roommate who is not on the lease is super unreliable and still has not paid for January.
I was able to secure a new room starting in February but I need $475 for rent. I have not been able to reliably make money this month and would really appreciate help. I’m hoping this will be the last time I have to make a post like this after moving to a less expensive apartment. Thank you to anyone who can help!!
all of your feelings are valid as in “worth acknowledgment and internal consideration” but some of your feelings are also stupid and mean, and you need to deal with that shit without making it anyone else’s problem
like we are all beings of light, namaste, but also every single one of us has an ugly, dumb, selfish, lazy goblin living inside of us which can never be silenced or destroyed. and being a decent person means keeping that little fuck in his special little playpen hidden away in your heart, with his colorful enrichment rattles and his favorite pieces of raw meat, where he can pipe up with his wretched little opinions and you can nod sagaciously at him and pat him on the head and tell him you understand why he feels that way and never, ever let anybody else get their feelings hurt by him, because he sucks shit and nothing he has to say is worthy of notice by anyone but you. you should pay attention to him, but only because it’s important to understand your own worst impulses, and because trying to ignore him will make him break down a wall and run out into the street where he can show passerbys his privates and eat cigarette butts right off the ground. your goblin is valid: that doesn’t mean he’s fit for company.
every passage i read online from new JK rowling stuff is like…… legitimately bad, prose-wise? like i don’t mean to conflate the goodness of ones beliefs with one’s talent as a creator; many good artists are also bad people. but also…. was her prose always this bad???? like i remember harry potter having problems but i don’t remember it being atrocious in terms of just the quality of the writing. is it just more apparent when she’s writing stuff for adults?????
the later books had some bits like that, though never as bad as the bits of cormoran strike i’ve seen. if you have time to spare and are interested i recommend the shrieking shack podcast, which really digs into the books. they started in 2018 and finished deathly hallows in 2021, so they’re covering all the little details of rowlings terfiness as they emerge
they also did twilight and are currently doing some one off books like maximum ride and the da vinci code, which are also great listens that don’t have nearly the weight of the harry potter episodes
i’ve had a lot of people recommend that podcast to me so i should really give it a listen!!! i also really liked Shaun’s video on the subject, although there were individual points i disagreed with. that and the mic the snare glee video are kinda comfort videos for me at this point.
hyena positivity that focuses on spotted hyenas only is so fake. if you don’t love brown and striped hyenas then get out. if you don’t love aardwolves I can’t even look at you oh my god
got taken to axe throwing tonight. i may not have impressed anyone with my technical axe throwing skills but my sheer brute animal strength is unparalleled
6 DEX 20 STR
If it works, it works. Anyone who can embed the blunt end of an axe into plywood has a hell of an arm.
My petty ass when someone skinny buys something XXXL from a thrift store to ~transform~ it into a cute tailored cocktail dress: how about you leave the XXXL section alone so poor fat women out there can retain some sense of variety out of the 7 things that actually fit them in the god damn goodwill
Just to be clear I’m not talking about “I bought something a couple sizes larger than me and I’m taking it in”
I’m very specifically talking about THIS SORT OF THING
ugh the top and bottom ones make me especially furious because she removed the interesting part of the dress! those would both look adorable on me as is.
she could make an ugly black dress like that herself without chopping up a cool vintage dress in a rare larger size
@maryburgers would you have gone to that specific theft store to buy that specific vintage dress? If you would have never gotten it then why would you degrade her for doing cute and interesting to a dress that probably would have just sat at the thrift store forever.
Hey you know what’s actually degrading? Making a habit, and by that I mean an entire blog, where you buy all the plus size clothes in a thrift store and then take pictures of yourself contrasting your tiny body against the IMPLLLAAAUSIBLY OUTRAGEOUSLY HUUUUGE clothing. That is degrading.
Also like, fat people live everywhere SOMEONE would have gone to that specific store and fit into those dresses as is and loved them, there are so little options for fat people everywhere, none of the alterations they made are special or unique, like they could easily find something similar in a thrift store at the same price point.
plus size clothes DON’T sit at the thrift store forever. general size clothes do. our donated clothes last maybe a few weeks tops at a thrift store because there’s a larger demand for them than supply, that’s why the sections are so damn small despite the average us woman being a size 14, because they’re picked over constantly by people who need clothes. i was not expecting to do this but i’m gonna go into deep detail so you understand why exactly this is fucked up.
poor people are more likely to be plus size because of lack of access to healthy food, which is the target demographic of a damn thrift store in the first place. thrift shopping is trendy now, which is fine, except when you buy clothes for projects like this that are in high demand but low supply: maternity clothes, plus size clothes, pajamas, etc. if you need clothing, buy it. but you can make any of these projects from clothes without poaching from low supply areas and taking comical pictures that mock fat bodies.
now here’s why there’s a ridiculously low supply of plus size clothes: fat people don’t have as many places to buy clothes and all of them have poor selection so we don’t buy a lot of them to begin with. the shopping pattern of a plus size person is very different from that of a straight size person as well. i know this from working in plus size retail. overwhelmingly, we shop when we desperately need clothes. and i mean desperately like hole the size of a basketball in the thigh of your jeans desperately. wearing a bra from 1998 desperately. work blazer held together with scotch tape and safety pins desperately. we can’t donate our clothes because we wear them until the point where we physically cannot anymore.
we also don’t cycle through trends as much as smaller sizes because a) shopping is a huge ordeal for a plus size person and b) our clothes cost WAY MORE so we can’t afford to wear an article of clothing once and then give it to goodwill. then on top of that none of the places that give you money for clothes EVER want your fatass clothes. skinny people can pop over to any secondhand clothing store that pays for donations and get some of that investment back. we can’t do that EVEN THOUGH our clothes cost way more than straight sizes. oh, and we get paid less than thinner women btw :) that’s always great.
so if we can’t regain any of our investment, we’re just gonna put up with clothes we don’t like until we can’t wear them anymore or we give them away in the case of weight loss (when ur fat you know a lot of other fatties, and if ur a queer/trans fatty someone is always having a clothing swap you can give to).
all of this adds up to make it so that thrift stores are in low supply of plus size clothes that more and more people need because us fatties? if we don’t look good we don’t get jobs. you cannot look even the slightest bit unkempt or you come off as lazy or bitchy, and if you have a family to support you can’t spend weeks looking for a job where they won’t judge your competence based upon whether your clothes are trendy or not. when you’re not plus size and you take away these clothes from needy women you are in small part enabling their suffering.
it shouldn’t be that way. women should have access to affordable, well fitting, professional clothing regardless of size. but that’s not the world we live in so you can’t just cover your ears and pretend that it is.
@a-lames-adventure please fucking read all the replies on this and get the fuck @ me
Perspective.
I understand both sides of this issue, but the majority of the replies are the ethically sound side.
Having gone from a size 4 to a size 14 due to weight gain from medication, I can tell you that there is absolutely NO NEED to destroy plus-size clothing in order to get cute cocktail dresses or whatever in a thrift store. There are TONS of adorable petite cocktail dresses, formal dresses, etc, for smaller women. And there is a huge lack of cute dresses for anyone larger than a 10. I’m not even considered ‘plus size’, and I still struggle to find dresses that don’t make me look like the Goodyear blimp, because I’m pretty sure designers give up once you get beyond a certain size and intentionally make the dresses as ugly as possible.
If you want to make your own dress, buy the fucking fabric and do it from a pattern. You can even make it from a ~*~vintage~*~ pattern if you want extra Twee Points. Don’t buy, cut up, and ruin a perfectly good plus-size dress, while taking mocking pictures of how OMGHUGE it is, in order to make a rather bland cocktail dress. There’s literally no need to do that other than that you’re unimaginative, selfish, and don’t care about plus-size women.
This time x1000 Do you know how infuriating it is to try and find maternity clothes at a thrift store, find nothing, have to rely on you mom to spend $200 for 5 fucking items, and then go on pintrest and see some girl who would fit 90% of the clothes at the thrift store cutting up a maternity dress to make a blouse that looks like one you can by at urban Forever 21?
This is a hilarious mistranslation actually. I suspect it originally said something along the lines of “Impregnerad mot vatten”, i.e. “Water proof”.
Impregnering is the process of making a material resistant to water/heat. The swedish word for water (vatten) is similar to the word for goblin (vätten) so I guess there was a mixup.
what is uquiz if not some kid coming up to you in the playground saying “choose a color :p”
[ID: a picture of an cootie catcher, an origami fortune telling game, open to show the number choices on the inside. Visible on the outside are the colours yellow and green as choices. End ID.]
I’m sorry what the fuck did you just call it
We got another one folks, reblog with where you grew up and what you call this thing
yeah they were cootie catchers here
That Is a Quack-Quack
In Vietnamese, it translate pretty straightforward as origami fortune teller.
In Spanish they were also called “Lice Catcher”(Saca Piojos…)
not to be Like That but i find it highly fucking disturbing that people reject the idea of individual men suffering under current societal norms when the male-female suicide ratio is somewhere around 4:1 in Europe and the US - almost 7:1 in some countries. also cant scrub my mind of that post that went around showing how men typically choose more violent methods for ending their lives, and the response was largely “so they care less about the trauma to whoever finds them, typical 🙄” get a fucking grip. show some goddamn compassion.
More violent methods and thus they succeed far more, vs women who generally use less violent methods and are more likely to be caught and stopped. Also because men aren’t allowed to have feelings outside of “sports good” “angry” and “horny”, a lot of men don’t cry for help and most of the people around them report having no idea that they were even considering doing it until well after the fact. because they are significantly less likely to cry for help or to seek therapy.
More than one man I’ve dated has been real cagey about telling me he takes medicine to combat mental illness and when I finally do learn about it, all of them have told me that they’ve had people end relationships immediately upon hearing it and that’s why they didn’t want to tell me. Like. Think about it. You take meds to treat your depression so you don’t want to kill yourself, you get into a relationship with someone and are finally happy and comfortable to the point you’re ok being vulnerable, and that person drops you like a rock the second you reveal that sometimes your brain sabotages you. And we’re then surprised at just how awful the suicide statistics are and how resistant men can be to the idea of seeking help and opening up in the first place??? AND add to it that these are gay men, men who already feel rejected and isolated from society due to their attraction to other men and they think they’ve finally found someone who understands them and then fucking. That happens.
And then the lack of compassion when it’s brought up is just horrific. I think you’re right. Disturbing. “They don’t care about causing others trauma when they’re found” “your girlfriend’s not your therapist” “just go to therapy like the rest of us” “have they considered touching grass” BRO these people are IN PAIN they are HURTING they are DYING and you’re just gunna turn your back to them because you’ve decided they’re doing it in a way you don’t like. How awful. How cruel. Like you’re any different from anyone else who tells them “sack up and stop being a pussy about it” when they try to name their pain.
